I am a bit different than most twin flame bloggers.

I don’t believe twin flames end up together in happy, healthy relationships. Not matter how long you wait or work on yourself (and that is a good thing!)

Of course knowing who your is your twin and who isn’t is completely subjective. You get to decide. Regardless of what that person thinks. Regardless of what countless twin flame psychics or blog check list have told you. … even my own twin flame quiz can’t tell you for sure.

This really upsets people. They want someone to tell them for sure who this person is to them. I remember feeling the same way of needing answers. And I can tell you half the emails I get are asking me if this person is their twin or not. I also tell them it is up to them.

You don’t need to worry about labels. You can decide on your death bed who is your twin flame or who is your soul mate or false twin. Who cares.

What matters is … You are insanely in love with this person and they are driving you nuts.

You have an intense connection, but it’s not smooth sailing. You miss them so much, and you have never felt better when they are around. It feels like death when you think about them not being in your life, yet having them in your life is very complicated.

This is a twin flame.

a flame

a hot, burning flame

a painful and beautiful mirror

a reminder of your intense connection to the source energy within

They bring a sense of instant home, unconditional love and completion. Their energy combines with yours in a unique way you’ve never felt before. However, they take that away when they leave and send you directly into your void. The worst pain of your life and possibly multiple lifetimes. They won’t save you from this pain and it feels like it’s impossible to ever move of from them. Suicidal thoughts are common. Years pass with little to no movement toward a healthy relationship, but the high of that time together in the beginning never leaves your nervous system (until you integrate it). None of your old ways of getting over your ex’s work with this one. The pain is worse than a divorce or death. It can end with no closure or scorched earth.

Karmic Relationships

Are patterns and ego deaths. They follow you from life time to life time and they are based on clear trauma bonds that mimic those of your ancestors or parents. You are attempting to work out things like proving that you are lovable, worthy, value etc. Once you get out you can’t even remember why you got in them in the first place. They can come after a divorce, burn bright and hot, or smolder over big chunks of your life. Not really happy, but not really miserable.

A soulmate is a deep connection.

A member of your soul family. A friend, a stranger on the subway, a daughter, an uncle, a lover, your spouse. You meet them and you click. You know. It’s like two old friends meeting. You might feel a physical vibration in your body when you meeting. Mostly it is just a clear knowing this person is special and they are supposed to be in your life right now. You feel amazing around them. You adore them instantly. They don’t have to earn your love. You just love them. You see them as source sees them. Pure. Good. Your mood is almost always lifted after being with them.

a soul mate

a mate

a meeting of two souls

a sweet hello

a reminder of the magic and joy that you are

If you need help on your twin journey or want some insight from an outsider, consider booking a coaching or hypnosis session with me. I started doing sessions, because I remember feeling so alone and so confused with my twin situation. I want everyone to have a positive twin experience and to move through the pain quickly.

labels don't matter

What matters is you need answers. You need to make sense of your life. You need clarity and comfort. You deserve all of that. You deserve to be happy.

Decide this when you are in the nursing home! You never know who you will meet through out life.

Let me know in the comments your definition of a twin flame and if you want to end up with a twin flame or soul mate.