Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Your Situationship

If you’ve ever felt ashamed or silly for still being hung up on someone who gave you breadcrumbs, you’re not alone, and you’re definitely not crazy.

Situationships can feel like a strange limbo: not a relationship, not a fling, but something in between. And yet, the emotional hold they can have on you is very real. You might be replaying memories, over-analyzing every message, or wondering why you still ache when they never gave you what you needed in the first place.

The truth is, sometimes a situationship is the first time you’ve felt something deeply, even if it wasn’t safe, stable, or fully mutual. There may have been a soul connection, an energetic pull you couldn’t explain. And even if it only lasted a few weeks or months, the emotional impact can be enormous.

Why?

Because connections like this often touch places inside you that were already raw: abandonment wounds, fears of not being chosen, old stories from childhood where love had to be earned. Your inner child might have finally felt seen. You finally felt complete, happy, at home and loved. And then they vanish, and that grief runs deep. Deeper than that 2 year relationship you had to end.

It’s not “just” a situationship. It may have activated something spiritual, psychological, and deep in the nervous system.

You didn’t make it up. And you’re not weak for still caring. You might never even get them to say they felt the same thing which is it’s own kind of torture.

So instead of shaming yourself for not “getting over it,” try asking:

• What part of me did this connection awaken?

• What old pain is being stirred up?

• What healing is now available because of it?

Because even the briefest connection can be a mirror, a catalyst, and a teacher. And you deserve the space to grieve it, understand it, and reclaim yourself, piece by piece.