Masculine and Feminine Energy in Motherhood

We all have masculine and feminine energy in ourselves. It is good to have a balance of both. We each fall on a spectrum of how we typically express our energy. Think of the characters of Sex and the City.  As working, educated women we have learned to become very comfortable in our masculine energy. We need it to thrive in the work place and the world today. Today’s society values masculine energy more than it does feminine energy. For example, a CEO makes more than a child care worker or an artist. It doesn’t mean one is better than the other.

Motherhood naturally brings out our more feminine energy. It can be uncomfortable at first if you are more comfortable in your masculine energy. You might even feel weak, out of control, or vulnerable at first. This simply means you need some practice on bringing out your other side that you may have been suppressing for most of your life.

Motherhood requires both energies. Incredible moms are able to play up their strengths and get support for areas they don’t excel at. Typically one partner will be the dominant in masculine or feminine energy. However, it’s essential that you learn to develop both.  Feminine is the ocean and masculine is the ship. Take a look at this chart and see which energy you feel more comfortable with.  


Masculine Energy in Motherhood



Being on time

In the moment

Placing intellect above emotion

Places emotions over intellect





Main purpose is work/career

“me” oriented, taking care of self first

Forceful, assertive

Logic, mind, reasoning

Feminine Energy in Motherhood

Main purpose is love

“I think”

“I feel”

Goal and results oriented




Energy and Movement

In the body, stillness, being

Single-minded, Focused


Playful, Imaginative


“we” oriented, taking care of others

Attracting, magnetic

Intuitive, heart, feeling

Remember you need both!


How to become more comfortable in Feminine:

Yoga, dancing, therapy, put others first, volunteer, work with children or animals, massage, journaling, spending time in nature, vacation, play,

How to become more comfortable in the Masculine:

Take the lead on a project, focus on your career, discover your life purpose (more than family, people), focus on yourself, put others second.


Feminine Motherhood tasks:

Sitting with kids in painful emotions

Playing games

Celebrating victories


Masculine Motherhood tasks:

Organizing clothes and lunches for school the next day

Keeping kids on schedule to get to school in time

Planning grocery list 


Check out Approaching Motherhood for more information on taking a new approach to parenting.  See how you can prepare for motherhood before you have kids. Find out what kind of mother you will be.