Waiting for Your Twin Flame? Divine Timing or Just Foolish? 555 1111 444 2222
Once the runner leaves or checks out we are left waiting.
Waiting is one of the worst feelings in the world.
It's the shadow side of the separation phase in twin flame relationships.
You want to trust in divine timing and maybe even fear that your doubt is keeping them away (that simply isn't true). They are keeping themselves away - their fear, other priorities, not ready for love, etc.
We get to the waiting spot because we have run out of actions to do. There are no more perfectly crafted texts or asking for what we need in just the right tone.
We are left with silence or non-movement from our twin. They aren't going to change anytime soon.
Your Waiting Persona and Twin Flames
My coaching and hypnosis practice uses parts work or IFS (internal family systems) approach. Meaning you are made of a complex system of voices, personalities, or emotions.
The main parts (or voices and thought patterns) in twin flame situations can be Unconditional Love, Hope (for Reunion), despair, Wounded inner child, Brokenness etc.
Our system decides waiting is what we need to do to get what we want. It's craving a solution. Even a painful one.
We also have another part that comes up and is usually not very happy about waiting. It feels angry and frustrated. Life feels unfair to have to sit around and do nothing while the love of our lives is doing whatever they want.
I invite you to sit with your part that is waiting.
My Waiting Part
My Waiting part appears to me as a little kid that is pushed into an adult role. It doesn't want to sit there and be the lookout. Other perfection/strategic parts want it to sit in just the right way, so it doesn't look pathetic or desperate.
The Waiting part feels a lot of sadness it doesn't get to play and enjoy life anymore. It has a lot of energy inside of it and it loves action, movement, and working with others.
It doesn't feel like it can sit still and resents the system for making it sit there. It doesn't know how long it will have to wait. Some of the voices in my head say it has to wait as long as it takes. No kid wants to hear that!
Another voice might come in and remind you that this is the only time you have ever felt this way before. No one else will make you feel that way. You might also hear that if you don't wait and leave room in your heart for them to come back, then it will feel like you are ripping out your heart.
The louder, pushier voices might be telling the Waiting part that we can never give up on this. This is our one true love. We must wait.
Journal Exercises:
As you sit with your Waiting part,
Ask it why it feels like it has to wait. What signs is it looking for?
If it's waiting for communication or a text, does it feel like it is free to do other things, play, and enjoy life while it looks out for the text?
How likely is it that you would miss this person changing and coming back into your life even if it was doing other things?
What would it be doing if this person was already in your life? Volunteering? Going back to school? Moving towns?
How old is the Waiting part?
When else did it have to wait? When you were a kid? Teen? adult?
How can the Waiting part still look out, but also feel like it is not being punished or losing time?
Who assigned the Waiting part its role? Why does it think waiting is a good idea vs bad idea? What choices does it have?
Where is the sense of urgency in my body? What does it want?
Where is power in waiting?
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I am choosing to wait for someone who _____
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Here are some things to do while you are waiting for your twin flame:
Date other people. Yes! take a break for a bit from dating, but you should be enjoying another masculine/feminine energy. Even if it's just flirting. This will not break your twin flame connection. These others will not live up to your twin flame connection but are great ways to practice opening your heart and being present. Assume your twin is with others.
Volunteer. Get out of your suffering and tune back into the needs of the greater world. You are lost without love, but there are some people who don't have enough food or a house.
Therapy, coaching. And I don't mean twin flame tarot and psychic readings. You want to be healing yourself - parts work, inner child, etc. My coaching style incorporates it all.
Move your body/get outside.
New hobbies. Even if you can redirect your energy for an hour. It's better than watching tarot readings alone and spinning out.
New friends. Are you tolerating people you don't love?
Spiritual gifts. This is a huge gift from meeting a twin. Telepathy, energy healing, etc Try it out with someone besides your twin flame.
Pull your energy off of them. It smothers them and it causes you to abandon your inner child. Feel the difference when you turn your energy towards you and off of something outside of you.
Consciously send them love and healing energy, don't just spin in your head. Move your body! There is no power outside of your body. Your mind can't solve this.
Mental Reframes:
Are you waiting or practicing the art of patience?
Are you waiting for them to respond? Or are they giving you space to respond to your own needs and parts in a way you never had to before?
Are you waiting for them to choose you? Or are they giving you the chance to look at yourself and all the parts of you that you haven't chosen over your entire life?
Are they taking too long to heal themselves? Or are you putting a timeline from your own mind onto them? Not everyone wants to heal quickly or at all. This is important data about what kind of person they are.
Has something gone wrong in the universe? Or are you learning that sometimes what you know in your soul and body doesn't translate in another person's 3D reality?
If you need support while you wait, I offer coaching and hypnosis. I also offer 20 minute free assessments of your situation.
