How to turn down a guy...The art of rejection



Telling a guy you aren't interested can be the hardest thing to do. It can make you sick to your stomach! I know it can be so hard that people don’t even want to try out dating people they aren't super certain of just in case they have to turn them down.

Dating Situation:

Go on dates with guys you know will never work out, because one day it will. You can be confident you won’t come off as a bitch or hurt his feelings too bad if you use these two lines.

If you meet online, I don’t consider the first encounter as a date. It’s more of a meet up. I think it’s acceptable to just text or email and say “I didn't really feel a romantic connection. I wish you the best :)

I think if you've been on two or more dates you should say in person (over text is okay if all of your communication has been over text and you feel okay doing it). You can say “Thank you for taking me out. But my heart just isn't in it.”

These lines are great because they make the problem about you not feeling something instead of them not being or doing something. You aren't lying, beating around the bush, or pointing out their faults. It’s also better than just disappearing, which I've done plenty of times. Oops…

They also don’t give him false hope of lines like “I’m busy with work right now” or “I've got a lot going on” or “I can’t this weekend.”

So take the pressure off of yourself of deciding whether you want to marry this man before you meet him offline or before saying yes to date. Relax and enjoy your date because you have two lines now to use if it doesn't go well.

How to reject a guy who is hitting on you:

You can also politely turn down a guy you don’t like hitting on you at the bar or coffee shop.

Use the boyfriend excuse or say you are just having a night out with the girls. Throw you that you are really flattered and you hope they enjoy the rest of their night.

Also watch this video from a male pick up artist that now trains women. Mehow, how to reject guys.

Long term relationships:

Here are some good opening lines for breaking off longer term relationships:

“I’m not in a place to date someone right now, but I still love you.”

“I need to figure out myself before I can share my life with someone.”

“I think we need to work on ourselves before we can ever share a life together.”

“I have a lot more growing to do before I’m ready for something like this.”

“Something about us doesn't feel right, and I have to act on that.”

 “I don’t know what I want, and as long as I feel this way, it’s not fair to you.”

“I have a lot more growing to do before I’m ready for something like this.”


Do you like these? Leave your best rejection lines in the comments.